Self Image VS Reality

self image and reality You say you’re not a Kim Kardashian, Tiger Woods, Mark Zuckerberg or Martha Stewart, to name a few celebrities the world is following, so why try to be? Do you think they want to be like us, the commoners? Yes, we already know the answer to that question. Most celebrities, as we all know, spend their working years trying to live up to the image they’ve created for themselves. You think you have trouble trying to keep up with them, they’re exhausted trying to keep up with themselves.

We all came into the world singularly as well as will go out in the same fashion. The walk of life takes us on a journey starting out with our parents and extended families all contributing to help form our basic mindset, as to who we are. As we move on in our lives, we eventually enter the adult world and it appears to be here where so many get lost. This isn’t a surprise when you consider the confusion and self-doubt generated as a consequence to one’s exposure to anything and everything in the world. In our early to middle adulthood, our inner core is truly tested.

There are people of many different personality types on this planet and we all possess a self-image of ourselves. There are people born with a sense of self and associated confidence, that appear to have a clear advantage over the average person in that they appear to be fearless in venturing out to try things, but don’t confuse this quality as self-image. One’s self-image has to be earned. We each have to acquire self-knowledge secondary to feedback from our personal walks through life. This is how we  test and form our self-image. You can be taught up to a point, then one has to personally jump in and get their feet wet; kind of like the right of passage to get to the later stages in life.

In an Abstract of  the Journal of the Association for Psychological Evidence; March 2013 8:173-186, Erika N. Carlson Dept of Psychology Washington University St Louis, stated that  “mindfulness may serve as a path to self-knowledge ” She went on to say that “specifically, mindfulness appears to directly address the two major barriers (blind spots) to self-knowledge: informational barriers (ie quantity and quality of information people have about themselves) and motivational barriers (ie ego-protective motives that affect how people process information about themselves.)“For example, one who overestimates the positivity of his or her personality or status is often disliked by others, whereas having insight into how others perceive the self and acknowledging one’s flaws seems to attenuate the negativity of others’ impressions,” This article demonstrated her evidence supporting the connection between the improvement of self-knowledge and mindfulness; both contributing to one’s self-image vs reality of.

We see those in the media whose images appear larger than life, but as to the reality of that, its hard to tell secondary to the distortion surrounded by the media hype.  As to whether these individuals create their self-image through mindfulness, I personally doubt that, especially when you realize that these people have full-time Public Relation firms making sure they’re “front and center of  what’s happening”.; all focused around their ‘created image,’ in order to make money. They are the pro’s of self-image vs reality or is it self image vs deception?

Regardless of the motives of the pro’s, we all have a mission in life to become who we were meant to be. We can personally feel great about our own image but as to whether or not it’ll withstand time or our society’s perception of us, is to be determined. If we are true to ourselves and listen to our inner core, which was laid out in our early years by people who really wanted nothing but the best for us,  as well as try to be stay on track with what we know is right, we should have a fairly clear view of who we are and where we’re headed in the real world.





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