Bullying Not Acceptable–No If’s, And’s or But’s!

cyber-bullying-6Political correctness does not stop bullying. A bully is a bully is a bully, no matter what. For whatever reason, they don’t see their behavior as abnormal and its most likely something passed on to them from a parent, sibling or close relation during their years of growing up. Their behavior is nothing but unacceptable and needs to immediately nipped in the bud.

Being a witness of bullying over the years, I understand the feeling of disgust when someone treats another person in that manner. Bullying was not  a behavior tolerated in my childhood home. We were taught to treat one another with respect, no matter if we had issues with one another or not. We could have our own opinions but at the same time, we were taught to realize that was the same for everyone across the board. Yes, we had our peer tiffs but adult intervention usually took place when any type of “out-of-place” behaviors arose. The reason for stopping was verbalized and we were confronted with clearing the air right then and there.

Per Wikipedia, “Bullying is the use of force or coercion to abuse or intimidate others. The behavior can be habitual and involve an imbalance of social or physical power. It can include verbal harassment or threat, physical assault or coercion and may be directed repeatedly towards particular victims, perhaps on grounds of race, religion, gender, sexuality or ability. If bullying is done by a group, it is called mobbing.” “Bullying consists of three basic types of abuse – emotional, verbal and physical. It typically involves subtle methods of coercion such as intimidation.”

Bullying has no age limit and is not defined by sex. Per the American Society of Psychology, ” Bullying is a form of aggressive behavior in which someone intentionally and repeatedly causes another person injury or discomfort. Bullying can take the form of physical contact, words or more subtle actions. The bullied individual typically has trouble defending him or herself and does nothing to “cause” the bullying.” Bullying pretty much takes place in all walks of life and to all age groups with no one being exempt.

U.S. National Center for Education Statistics suggests that “bullying can be classified into two categories: direct bullying, and indirect bullying”  (Student Reports of Bullying, Results From the 2001 School Crime Supplement to the National Crime Victimization Survey, US National Center for Education Statistics.)Ross, P. N. (1998). (Arresting violence: A resource guide for schools and their communities. Toronto: Ontario Public School Teachers’ Federation) states “that direct bullying involves a great deal of physical aggression, such as shoving and poking, throwing things, slapping, choking, punching and kicking, beating, stabbing, pulling hair, scratching, biting, scraping, and pinching.”

Mr Ross also “that social aggression or indirect bullying is characterized by attempting to socially isolate the victim. This isolation is achieved through a wide variety of techniques, including spreading gossip, refusing to socialize with the victim, bullying other people who wish to socialize with the victim, and criticizing the victim’s manner of dress and other socially-significant markers (including the victim’s race, religion, disability, sex, or sexual preference, etc.). Ross outlines (in his stated resource guide) “an array of nonviolent behavior which can be considered ‘indirect bullying’, at least in some instances, such as name calling, the silent treatment, arguing others into submission, manipulation, gossip/false gossip, lies, rumors/false rumors, staring,  giggling, laughing at the victim, saying certain words that trigger a reaction from a past event, and mocking.”

As you can see by the aforementioned quoted sources, bullying is well-studied and effects anyone and everyone. As to whether or not one will be directly involved, no one can say, but one does have the choice to be a victim or not. In order for bullying to be eradicated over time, we all have to be vigilant and report any witnessed inappropriate behaviors to the designated authorities so that actions can be taken. If and when this is taken seriously by all, things will change. Thus far, many organizations have formed around the world that specifically address bullying. We all need to realize that we should help anyone being bullied, no  matter what, as well as realize that this could be us in their shoes hoping someone would step forward. Check out the LINK below to educate yourself in regards to handling of bullying. We must all continue on in our quest to stop it–no more exceptions!

LINK to American Society of Psychology Bullying Topics 







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