Does Life of Excess create a Disconnect from Reality?

ExcessBaggage  How do people living a life of excess really see themselves in relation to their fellow-man, or, do they even care? Road to success is being smart at working hard, keeping your nose to the grindstone, staying focused on goals as well as good ole luck and/or timing. If and when you do achieve success, do not let it go to your head but rather, be humbled by it. What we typically see via media sources isn’t the true picture; bells really don’t go off, work continues at an even more rapid pace with higher stress levels.

Some individuals walk into their success rather than earn it, such as winning the lottery or receiving  an inheritance. There is no blood, sweat or tears tied to this instant success/winnings, therefore, it appears to be easier to squander. Once one enters that lifestyle, the harder it is to back out with all its allure and temptations at hand. Some have common sense and choose other paths yet many are sucked into the life of excesses and into a world of false reality.

It takes discipline to stay focused, even after achieving success. Without it, one is easily swayed into the rapid, consumer focused pace of life. Instead of putting out effort towards achieving internal happiness, most foolishly reach out to readily accessible superficial means to bring them happiness, which is fleeting in  nature and eventually causes problems.

I came upon an article in Forbes.com 1/14/12 by Panos Mourdoukoutas, ‘The 10 Golden Rules in Living the Good Life,’ which was filled with what I would call wise information, as a guide for living the “good life” and  not synonymous to a life of excesses.

The 10 Golden Rules Mr. Mourdoukoutas outlined in his Forbes article were:

1. “Examine life, engage life with vengeance; always search for new pleasures and new destinies to reach with your mind.”

2. “Worry only about the things that are in your control, the things that can be influenced and changed by your actions, not about the things that are beyond your capacity to direct or alter.”

3.” Treasure Friendship, the reciprocal attachment that fills the need for affiliation. Friendship cannot be acquired in the market place, but must be nurtured and treasured in relations imbued with trust and amity.”

4. “Experience True Pleasure. Avoid shallow and transient pleasures. Keep your life simple. Seek calming pleasures that contribute to peace of mind. True pleasure is disciplined and restrained.”

5. “Master Yourself. Resist any external force that might delimit thought and action; stop deceiving yourself, believing only what is personally useful and convenient; complete liberty necessitates a struggle within, a battle to subdue negative psychological and spiritual forces that preclude a healthy existence; self-mastery requires ruthless candor.”

6. “Avoid Excess. Live life in harmony and balance. Avoid excesses. Even good things, pursued or attained without moderation, can become a source of misery and suffering.”

7. “Be a Responsible Human Being. Approach yourself with honesty and thoroughness; maintain a kind of spiritual hygiene; stop the blame-shifting for your errors and shortcomings.”

8. “Don’t Be a Prosperous Fool. Prosperity by itself, is not a cure-all against an ill-led life, and may be a source of dangerous foolishness. Money is a necessary but not a sufficient condition for the good life, for happiness and wisdom.”

 9. “Don’t Do Evil to Others. Evildoing is a dangerous habit, a kind of reflex too quickly resorted to and too easily justified that has a lasting and damaging effect upon the quest for the good life. Harming others claims two victims—the receiver of the harm, and the victimizer, the one who does harm.”

10. “Kindness towards others tends to be rewarded. Kindness to others is a good habit that supports and reinforces the quest for the good life. Helping others bestows a sense of satisfaction that has two beneficiaries—the beneficiary, the receiver of the help, and the benefactor, the one who provides the help.”

We all enter the work force with good intentions, as well as with hope to be successful at what we do. Don’t take me wrong as being successful is a good thing, but its more about how you live that life, rather than it running you. We must use common sense, be humbled, stay on the high road avoiding the low road, surround ourselves with people we trust and respect, as well as reach out in ways we can to help raise others up–that’s the key to a true win-win scenario.

 

LINK to The 10 Golden Rules in Living the Good Life (Forbes.com)1/14/12

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

too many temptations for family members who didn’t put in the time to earn success but reap the rewards of without the tools to deal with it.

 

 

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