How broad do our shoulders really have to be when carrying stress levels out of control?

stress on our shoulders The washer just broke and needs to be replaced, dog needs her shots, need to schedule dental appts., Aunt Martha’s sick and needs help, Susie’s class needs volunteers, Husband’s boss is having a dinner; on and on. Does this sound familiar? Bombardment from all angles, day and night-night and day. Many of us have broad shoulders and can carry a lot, but, when does it stop? This is not good for your health.

Life is full of issues needing attention 24/7. The question is, how really important are all the issues vs the stress levels they invoke? You can always say “no” and it’s perfectly okay. Realize that as soon as you say no, someone else will take your place.¬† It does feel good to be in charge of it all but if quality of life is diminished, is it really worth it? Our elders will tell you that quality of life is what it’s all about.

A lot of disease processes are known to be exacerbated by stress, such as that which most of us experience on a day-to-day basis. The healthy goal in life should be for us to minimize or eliminate stress. Elimination or management of stress through use of alcohol or drugs isn’t that uncommon. Unfortunately, these methods provide only temporary relief and are linked to an abundance of side effects. The best choice is to be in charge and choose the outcomes.

Taking charge¬† is to address your stresses with honesty and logic, avoiding emotional involvement if at all possible. Prioritize your issues or responsibilities into 3 lists; 1) Tasks I have to do. 2) Tasks I can do another day. 3) Tasks someone else can do. The most important thing is to learn to say “no”; especially if something isn’t related to life or death and full well knowing that your decision is made on what is best for you and your families.

One can find articles, blogs or books on how to handle stress and they are all well and good but, realize that you are the only one who can say yay or nay. Take charge and be realistic. Teach those around you how to prioritize what’s important and what’s not; keeping one’s peace of mind and health at the center of the decisions.

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